COUPLES THERAPY
Decades of scientific research and well-documented clinical experience identify a key to health, wellbeing, and even healing of our deepest emotional wounds: the quality of our attachment bonds.
This key is held by our significant others.
COUPLES THERAPY
Significant others provide a sense of predictability, belonging, and strength within an ever changing, and unpredictable world. Deeply meaningful relationships serve as a touchstone for us to courageously face life’s challenges and turn them into opportunities to achieve our highest aspirations.
Our significant others also hold the key that inadvertently activates dormant pain, fears, longings, and chaos that don’t seem to rear their heads anywhere else in our lives. EFT uses moments of conflict and disagreement between partners as portals that open therapeutic doorways into unresolved dormant hurt that is the driving force beneath the reactivity that occurs when people who love each other get caught in conflict.
Interestingly, these very same partners also hold the golden “key” to not only healing the distress within the relationship, but also for a sustained sense of personal well-being.
Through Emotionally Focused Therapy, I join couples in identifying, and healing the pain beneath their stuck spots so that they may finally break free from the long-standing patterns that maintain distress and erode attachment bonds. This frees partners to be able to create rewarding opportunities to effectively connect with one another to promote the type of closeness and stable connection that creates love that lasts the trials of time.
I have always had a deep respect and passion for marriage and couple’s therapy. It has been the specialization of my practice for well over 25 years. EFT not only helps partners co-create the relationship that they have been longing for; it also helps partners heal historical wounds from the past in the process.
EFT (EMOTIONALLY FOCUSED THERAPY)
EFT is an elegant blend of empirically validated research and respectful, effective humanistic therapy. I am one of approximately two dozen psychotherapists in the country to have met the criteria to become certified as a trainer in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). Additionally, I have devoted my time and attention to training psychotherapists seeking EFT certification nationally and abroad to become certified in the EFT model.
FEELING STUCK? COUPLES THERAPY CAN HELP
Our primary relationships are the most important relationships we have in our lives. Partners and spouses are the rare constants who walk alongside us as we journey through the unpredictable twists and turns of life. They provide support, understanding, strength, and joy.
However, when good natured, well intended, caring people find themselves feeling stuck - or worse, alienated from their significant others - a depth of pain and confusion unlike that in any other relationships overwhelms people and causes despair. If you are like most of us, we are a little too close to the forest to see the trees and have an immensely difficult time finding our way out of these quagmires despite our best efforts and intentions.
This is where EFT is most helpful. Couples therapy provides a very clear, personal, and effective way to not only make sense of where you have been stuck, but provide you with a path through the chaos. EFT can be extraordinarily effective in freeing partners from the powerful patterns that have hijacked their love, closeness, and connection with one another.
WHY IS EFT A GOOD FIT FOR COUPLES?
EFT is personal, respectful, non-judgmental, practical, and extremely effective. EFT is an approach that strikes a unique balance between the findings of empirically validated research, and the finest of interpersonal-humanistic psychotherapy. It gets results. It is the most effective relational therapy ever researched, creating long-term stable change that remains solid through the course of time.
Couples report feeling closer, more clearly understood, better able to effectively navigate conflict with their partners, and much higher degrees of satisfaction in their relationships as a result.
One of the most striking outcomes of EFT is that the therapy work done in session beautifully translates to ongoing meaningful interactions that couples implement in their own lives outside of therapy.
If you need help navigating the challenges in your relationship, please feel free to shoot me an email and set up a phone call to talk.
Ready to get started?
Congratulations on taking the first step in your therapy process: researching your options, and finding the right therapist for you. If you feel like I may be a good fit for what you are looking for, the next step is to contact me to set up an initial session.
Our initial session will be our chance to get to know one another. I welcome questions about my approach, my experience as a therapist, and what you can expect from working with me. I also will ask you more about what brings you to seek therapy, and what you are hoping to get out of our time together.
We will set up regular weekly or biweekly appointments, depending on what your treatment needs and goals are.
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Between what is said and not meant, and what is meant and not said, most of love is lost.
– KAHLIL GIBRAN